“You know what is really fucked up?” says my buddy, “Your future wife is out there right now and she’s banging some other dude. There’s nothing you can do about it.”
“Yeah, your future wife could be getting gang banged right now,” I say with a smirk because I think I am clever.
A few hours pass and I’m working out at the gym, an epiphany strikes. ”Holy fuck! My future wife could be getting gang banged right now! FUCKING WHORE!” I think to myself, “No fuck that, I’ll never accept that in a woman who would be my significant other.”
Even without going to the orgy extremes, there is still a very high chance that she probably has some other dudes schlong nestled snuggly in one of her pleasure holes. More than likely, some other guy has already been her first blow job, fuck, and anal experience. As a fully grown man, there isn’t anything you can do about it. Girls are losing their virginity before they even graduate high school. Unless you want to run the risk of losing your anal virginity in federal-pound-me-in-the-ass prison because of statutory rape, it’s a fact of life you’re going to have to accept.
I try to reason with myself that maybe she won’t be a virgin by the time she gets to me, but please don’t be a used up whore. Then I churn in my head all the shit I’ve learned about women over my short lifetime. I think of the girls I’ve known who’ve gone through their slut phases in their teens and twenties. They are now settling down into a real adult relationship or having kids, kissing their little infants with lips that have sucked dozens of cocks.
This is where the modern man and traditional machismo man inside me have a moral qualm. “I’ve had my share of random pussy and sexual experiences,” says the modern man, “How can I be a hypocrite?” Then machismo man says, “You’re a man. It’s your nature to go out to fuck random women, do stupid shit, and then apply the lessons you’ve learned when you get into a relationship with a woman who is actually worth settling down with. Whores are to be used and then promptly tossed aside.”
“Women are people too. They’re free to make their own sexual choices,” says the modern man.
“Yes, they are. You don’t have to accept them though. Just as she has the right to fuck around, you have the right to not to take a woman who has fucked around too much as a candidate for a partner,” rebuttals the machismo man.
“Well, that’s true. But, you’re not going to find a virgin over the age of 18 though. Even if you did, there’s a 95.5% chance it’s either because she’s a religious prude or just an ogre of a woman,” says the modern man.
The machismo man pauses, “You make a good fucking point. There is a balance to be had, the number just can’t be too high.”
“What’s too high of a number?” Asks the modern man.
“I don’t fucking know. Uh… hopefully in the single digits or at the most, one dude per year since she’s lost her v-card,” responds the machismo man.
I can already hear the responses about how it’s hypocritical or how if she had safe sex, it really shouldn’t matter. Or more likely, it shows lack of a self confidence in a man because he can’t handle a woman who enjoyed sex or that he’s slut-shaming. There is nothing wrong with a woman loving sex. Women who love sex are fucking awesome. The issue is how easy it was for her to spread those legs to whatever cute guy she came across after having one or two cosmos.
This is the feeling a lot of us machismo men, yes, I unapologetically admit to being very machismo, possess: we want to conquer and dominate. We want to be the best lover in our woman’s life and it irks us to know someone else possessed her at some point. We don’t want to share. We don’t want to boldly go where dozens (maybe hundreds) of cocks have gone before. We want to go to pristine, fresh grounds that only a few, very select and lucky cocks got to prance around in.
Does a woman become a less valuable member of society because she’s had a train ran on her by a platoon worth of men? Of course not. It doesn’t make her a bad person or vile creature to be avoided. She can still be a great friend, co-worker, and contributing member of society. It’s her right to do whatever the fuck she wants. There are always consequences to said actions. Consequences of being a whore is that some men are going to be put off by it.
Just like many a woman may not want to be with me because I’m Hispanic, self-centered, not her type, unstable, lower class, unestablished, an alcoholic, uneducated, or many other factors. For me, being a whore is a deal breaker, plain and simple. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll still fuck her but take her as serious girlfriend material? Not going to happen.
Some may curse me for wanting that, hoping that I do end up falling in love with a whore to teach me a lesson for having the balls to state my standards. That’s on par with me wishing for a woman to end up with a cheating husband because she said she didn’t want to be with a man who cheats. Or wishing a Jewish woman ends up with non-Jew because she said she only dates Jewish men.
Part of being a free individual in our society is that we get to pick the qualities we value in our partners. No body is perfect and we’re all fucked up in our own way, but each of us have qualities that we put at a higher priority above others. A woman can be a whore and be a great person or a woman can be a virgin and be a total piece of shit.
For myself, I value looks, intelligence, good character, ambition, and non-sluttiness. Other mens lists may be different. A woman’s list may be different. Your list may be different. It’s our quest to find that person that possess the qualities we value highly and hopefully, we possess the qualities they value highly in return so they’ll actually want to be with us.
Am I such a horrible person for not wanting a whore as a significant other? Its fine, you wouldn’t want to be with such a backwards thinking, macho, misogynistic asshole who doesn’t value your right to express your sexual liberations by having cocks of all sorts destroying your orifices any ways. And future ex-wife, if you’re reading this, please try to keep it in the single digits.
~Raul Felix
“You sexist pig! Who do you think you are?” At least I didn’t make a rape reference… oh wait: Politcally Incorrect and Loving It
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your best piece by far
Thank you.
Oh yeah, you get treated a lot differently/better when you’re not a complete whore. As someone who was a virgin beyond 18, I speak from experience.
I bet.
It’s OK to have preferences … just as long as you remember that it may be the preference of a worthy woman to not be with a guy who has a player past.
It may be. I think most woman care way less about a man’s sexual past than a man cares about a woman’s sexual past. So, I’m not too worried about that.
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Too bad you can never know because they could just lie about it
They could, but I like to believe they’ll have enough integrity not to lie about it. But hey, I could be foolish.
The Aka people, a pygmy tribe living in Africa along the Congo river are notorious for their EQUAL RIGHTS between men and women (which many hunter-gatherer societies were known for) and their HYPER-SEXUALITY. “The examples above should remind us that there are as many sexual differences between cultures as there are similarities. It may astonish Westerners to realize that societies with these practices exist elsewhere in the world, but just imagine all of the other variations in human sexuality that must have been lost through the ages.” (http://romneymanassa.wordpress.com/2011/10/13/lesson-on-sexuality-from-the-aka-people/).
Also, you’ve read Dollars and Sex and you should understand from the book ONE important message. Since the age of marriage has been pushed to 30+, and the cost benefit of sleeping with someone before marriage has decreased, inevitable the question of “should I sleep with this person?” has been changed to “why the hell not!”. This is all a consequence of social change and norms. Perhaps your kind of monkey hasn’t evolved yet. Don’t worry, you’ll get there sooner or later, I hope.
I fully understand that message that Dollars and Sex gave on that subject matter. I even discussed it it my post about how my machismo brain (or monkey brain as you deem it) gets in a discussion about that with my modern brain (the one adapted to changes in social norms.)
Hunter and gather tribes where indeed known for that because the men of the tribe didn’t have assets to pass on the next generation. It was all a matter of survival to them and they really did’nt care if a child was theirs or not since it would be a community effort to raise the child. All this changed when human beings started evolving into an agricultural based society.
I even stated in my post that women DO have the right to do whatever the fuck they want. Fuck around all you want. You’re still a human with a rights and free will. Yet, you still insist that I’m a monkey for having some standard in that aspect. I don’t want a whore as a partner who has experienced too many men. Its my right like its anybody right to be a whore. I guess I’m an unevolved monkey.
We obviously have different opinions on the matter, and I know for a fact that the view of “do whatever you want and I just won’t chose you as a partner” view is a bit too gentle to say the least to your real view on the matter. So, yes you don’t want a whore as your woman, which is perfectly fine, I think men should have higher standards than “I can get my dick wet!!”. Both men and women need to be treated equally on the subject.
Great article and progress overall!
Keep up the good work.
I could say it in a rather more vulgar fashion, but we all know I have a spotless public image to maintain.
Your blog is fascinating, although many of your worldviews are extremely offensive to me I think it’s so interesting that you aim to hone your writing and express yourself honestly. So I think it would be a good idea for you to think more about your particular perspective. Strive to understand yourself and the unique way in which you see the world, strive to see other ways of seeing the world in order to see how your viewpoint is situated. The main thing that’s stopping you from making truly worthwhile stuff at the moment is that you are blind to the way your mind works.
Thank for saying that. I’ve read time and again that the way to be the best writer you can be is to be honest with your writing. So, I do strive to do that, even though a lot of my viewpoints are not in line with that of some sects of society. I do have trouble seeing how others view the world at times, something I struggle with a lot, since I do tend to think of myself first.
I used to feel kind of uncomfortable with the idea of my wife having been banged all kinds of ways, or even just losing her virginity to another guy.
I’ll just point out one thing: you can come to South East Asia (Philippines, Indonesia) and find a virgin wife if that’s what you want. Just putting it out there as an option, if it’s really important to you. Even if you’re in your 30s or 40s, it’s doable. And I’m talking sweet, university-educated middle class girls.
I like white chicks a lot. But Eastern Asian women can be very beautiful. Thanks for making me aware of the options.
Raul, let’s write a dual piece on this concept, lol- I will make you cry.
Let’s do it. I haven’t cried myself to sleep in a while. I’m due. Send me an e-mail.
based on how you engage people who criticize your work, i’d say you care more than you admit. anyway, what’s your email address? we’ll figure out a clever way to blend a post.
It’s right there on my about me.
Yup! From one Latino to another that Machismo always seem to get the best of us! LOL 🙂
Yes it does.
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Don’t ask don’t tell, that’s all you have to do. Pretty harsh words you put out there, macho. I would never call a woman a whore/slut, no matter how many guys she spreads her legs to and how many ways she does it. None of your business. When she’s with you she’s with you, that’s all that matters. If she wants to tell you stuff, then she will. Don’t play the holier than thou.
Quite the contrary, if its a woman I’m just hooking up with no prospects of a long term relationship, then it honestly doesn’t matter. But, when its a woman who will become someone important in my life, then, it is my business. Also, I never claimed to be holier than thou. In fact, the conversation outlining the machismo man and modern man mindset points out the contradiction and hypocrisy I feel.